The new technology of managing your life


      WHAT IS THIS BOOK ABOUT.       What are books by Sigmund Freud, Eric Berne, Frederick Perls, Carl Jung, etc., about?       These books are about us, people. About what we have inside of us and about what we should do to stop suffering and become happy and successful.        But if these classical books on psychology can be of such great use then why so few of us manage to read them? Why don't we apply the ideas in our everyday life? Probably it happens so because the texts are too complicated, they are written in a difficult language and do not contain any clear instructions of how to use the knowledge in practice. And also because the modern person, especially a young one, prefers using contemporary "gadgets" here and now instead of studying semiconductor physics, chemistry, electrodynamics and other sciences in order to understand how and why his/her mobile phone works.        The book by a talented business-coach, Elena Samsonova, "The New Technology of Managing your Life", is also about people and their lives. However, this book is written for modern people who are used to receiving high-quality information, quickly analyzing it, making decisions and acting immediately.       This book is based on the original theory of roles suggested by the author. Using the notion of a "role" (a dynamic informational system) and the notion of a "personality" (a dynamic role system) the author explains in simple terms the reasons of any person's psychological problems and suggests simple solutions which can be of great use in everyday life.        After reading this book you will be able to understand and solve most of the problems in personal life independently without consulting any specialists. The book contains a number of examples taken from real life which illustrate every theoretical statement and help to understand the technologies.        This book could be called "Human. Technical characteristics and user guide".              WHO IS THIS BOOK FOR?       The book will be interesting for:       - all those who want to find effective means of managing their lives in various situations and circumstances;       - young psychologists and coaches who would like to gain a competitive advantage on the market of psychological and business coaching by applying new effective technologies;       - business people and entrepreneurs who want to understand the system of human relations and become more effective in management, negotiations, career building, etc.;       And besides there is a lot of information in this book on personal growth and on how to become the person who is able to reach all the goals.              SPECIAL FEATURES OF THIS BOOK.       In order to use the technologies described in this book extensive knowledge of psychology and other sciences is not necessary. If you have a problem, a question which you would like to solve... you just take the corresponding technology from the book and start immediately changing your life.       The theory is understandable, the technologies are very simple; it's easy to perceive and apply them.       The author of the book has almost twenty years of practice in management consulting, business coaching, NLP training and life-management training.        In the first (paper) edition of the book it was called "Roles people play. Play your life by your own rules" ("Piter" publishing house, 2013).

Change your life for the better


Have you ever been in situations which (in several minutes, the next morning, in some time, etc.) make you feel embarrassed (agreeably surprised)? I think you have. I suppose, in these moments of understanding you were saying to yourself something like this:

Variant 1.

— How could I behave like that? How could I break down? Why did I shout at him (her, the parent, the child, the friend, the neighbor, the sales assistant, that person, etc.)? What has come upon me? Am I too emotional or is something wrong with me?

Variant 2.

— What happened? Why didn't I tell him/her that…? Why did I keep silent? Why did I bleat out? I should have said that! But I didn't… And now this ship has sailed!

Variant 3.

— I've been in great form today! Well done! I wish I could be in this state more often! Then I would be able to move mountains!

I could also suppose that such inner monologues take place only after everything has happened. But at that very moment it seems to you… No! You are absolutely sure that here and now you behave in the right way. There is no other way to act! And you have the right to behave like that! Or… that you can't, you are unable to behave in a different way.

What happens to you? Why do you behave and feel differently in different situations and/or with different people? Why are you so inconsistent and nonpersistent? Why can't you hold yourself together? Maybe you don't know what you want from people, life and yourself? Maybe you can't control yourself?

Maybe it is time to visit a psychologist? Or read good books, attend a training, speak to clever and wise people? Is it the right time for making your inner space more harmonious and balanced, find your integral self and stop suffering contradicting thoughts and evaluations?.. Probably it is. However…

Everything that happens to you can get a new angle on. You can look at it from the point of view of the theory of roles. You have to do it in order to understand that you are absolutely normal and sane and quite able to control all that chaos.

Here and further by the term «the theory of roles» I mean all the theoretic information which you can learn from this book. My theory of roles becomes intertwined with the classical theory of roles by G. Mead, the theory of subpersonality by Roberto Assagioli, the theory of transactional analysis by Eric Berne and the self-concept by Steve Andreas only in some terms and definitions. Everything else is the author's compilation of ideas, theories and views based on many years' consulting experience and «seasoned» with common sense. The compilation is quite functional and in many respects surprising, that's why I decided to call it the Theory of Roles by Elena Samsonova. Why not? Let it be!

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